How To Handle Challenges In Life Through New Perspectives

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If you want to know how to handle challenges in life it’s always useful to see things from a new perspective. Things often become problematic because we get stuck in a narrow point of view on the subject or object. For example we may feel challenged by a new colleague at work and start to focus on one of their particular character traits that gets on our nerves. Commonly what happens is we focus on this aspect of the person and “blow it out of proportion” which causes us distress.

We all know that “stepping back” from a situation can help us gain a beneficial new perspective on things, so why don’t we just go ahead and do that? We can do this easily enough in our mind’s eye while asking ourselves useful questions to shift our focus of attention and learn new perspectives and insights.

Stepping Back To Get a New Perspective

1. Thing about a situation (e.g. work) that causes you some stress.

2. Now in your mind imagine stepping back from this situation; So you can see yourself and the other people in the situation over there as if watching a movie.

3. From this point of observation ask yourself, “What beneficial learnings can I make from this perspective?” and, “If I could learn something new about this situation or person what would that be?

 

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If you wish you could imagine stepping into the other people and look at yourself in the situation. What new learnings could you make form this perspective? How does it feel to be observing your own behaviour and communication from the other person’s point of view? Could you change anything in your own communication to improve the relationships?

As we know, often our stuck states are just that because we get locked into a fixed perspective. It can therefore be very useful to do something radical to snap out of our myopia. So go ahead now, think about one of your problems/challenges and then perform the following visualisation exercise on it:

Micro/Macro Zoomer

1. Select something you want a radically new perspective on.

2. Now imagine you have zoomed in on the image to the microscopic level.

3. Make new learning’s. Try different levels of magnification.

4. Next zoom back to normal focus and then zoom out, way out into space; Imagine zooming right out into deep space, looking back at our galaxy!

5. Looking at this new perspective, notice any new understandings.

6. Come back to the here and now.

Video: Universe Zoom Out/In

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Shamanic Skills: Communicating With Tree Deva’s

 

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All the Shamanic cultures around the globe have a tradition of communicating with tree spirits. The word, Deva, meaning supernatural entity, derives from ancient India. In Europe tree spirits are often to referred to as Dryads.

“A dryad is a tree nymph, or female tree spirit, in Greek mythology. In Greek drys signifies “oak.” Thus, dryads are specifically the nymphs of oak trees, though the term has come to be used for all tree nymphs in general.” (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dryad)

Humans have a special relationship with trees, simply by the fact that trees produce the oxygen we breathe in and we exhale carbon dioxide which trees love.

So can I prove that tree spirits really exist? Nope. But you can do some really interesting thought experiments, by acting as if you can communicate with these Deva’s, and get useful results.

Isn’t everything a projection of the mind (consciousness) anyway?

If you would like insight into a problem or inspiration for a new project, I certainly recommend going for a walk in the woods, and imagine connecting with these wise beings or if you prefer; facets of the imagination.

One way you can achieve this:

Shamanic Skills: How To Communicate With Tree Deva’s

  • Walk around and allow yourself to be drawn to a certain tree.
  • Walk up to the tree and take a good look at it. Notice the trunk and the branches. Notice the bark and the leaves. Become aware of the smell of the tree. Place your hands on the tree and feel the textures.
  • In-tu-it: Imagine stepping In-To-It. That is imagine shape-shifting into the tree – becoming the tree. Notice what it’s like being the tree.
  • Psychically say “Hello” to the tree Deva. Become aware of any response.
  • Go ahead and ask a question you want help with. e.g.) “Please give me guidance on how I can solve problem xyz.” or “How can I improve my relationship with xyz?
  • Now allow any impressions to enter your consciousness. Relaxing, breathing and becoming aware of any thoughts, sensations or imagery that comes to mind…
  • Thank the Deva!

 

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So there you go, you now have one approach for communicating with tree spirits. As you have fun practicing these new shamanic skills, you will find yourself being able to gain better rapport with certain Dryads. It is well worth forming a relationship with a favourite particular tree because it will enable you to learn more about the subtle aspects of communicating at these levels of consciousness.

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The Subconscious Mind Mirror Technique For Success

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Does your subconscious mind make the big decisions? You may think of yourself as a sensible and rational individual, and you may be right, but how often do you find any of the following happen?

  • You explode at a friend or loved one for something which really is not that bad
  • You cannot control your emotions at the strangest of times
  • You produce a pre-conception out of thin air that you had no idea you even thought

We can surprise ourselves by coming out with opinions we never even knew that we had. This can surprise those around us, too. Well, all of these little opinions and pre-conceptions all come from our subconscious. The subconscious mind makes up a massive proportion of our mind, in fact some studies claim 95%.

Therefore, the majority of our opinions or our beliefs are going to come from that huge sector of the mind. Our subconscious decides when we breathe, how we digest our food and pretty much deals with all vital tasks that humans need to do to survive. Try and focus on your breathing when you are talking or thinking, it’s incredibly difficult.

Our subconscious mind stores everything from memories to important safety information. For example, it’s the part that hears your name over the sound of a hundred over voices. It also, unfortunately, represses negative emotions which have been weighing us down without a resolution. This is not a good thing though as it leads to the outbursts that we mentioned above. While our subconscious does so much good to keep us safe, alive and well, it also provides significant issues for us at certain junctions in our lives.

Our subconscious effectively generates our opinions. The reason this is so important to get is that it really does allow people to understand why they have made certain decisions in the past. If you regularly find yourself snapping at people or thinking negatively, it’s fair to say that your subconscious mind has built up quite a poor opinion of the world around you over the years!

The following technique is simple and yet can have a significant positive affect on your life because it changes your perception of reality at the level of your identity.

The Subconscious Mind Mirror Technique For Success

1. Stand in front of a mirror and look into your eyes.

2. With a feeling of love, say to yourself, “I deeply love and accept myself.”

3. Keep repeating this phrase while staring into your eyes feeling love and appreciation for yourself.

4. Repeat this everyday and begin to notice how you are feeling better about yourself…

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Mind Body Connection Exercises That Will Brighten Your Day

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With all the stresses and pollutants in our environment, noise, overcrowding, increasing workloads, commuting time etcetera, it’s no wonder the bodies energies get out of balance. All of these things can easily affect our thinking processes too. The good news is that there are many simple techniques available from fields such as Acupressure and Energy Medicine that can help rebalance your bodies systems just with the use of your own hands.

  • Thymus Tap: Use your fingers to tap at the center of your sternum; The thymus gland. Tapping this point helps keep your immune system in balance by helping produce T-lymphocytes (T cells).
  • Cross Crawl: Simply bring one leg up as you touch it with the opposite hand. Now swap to the other leg and hand. Repeat about twenty times. This exercise will help balance your brain hemispheres.
  • Crown Pull: Relieve stress, headaches and mental congestion by performing the Crown Pull: Place both hands in the middle of your forehead. Now pull apart the hands applying pressure to stretch the skin. Maintaining deep breathing, move your hands further up your head and perform the stretching again. Continue until you reach the back of the neck.
  • Ear Lobes Rub: You can wake yourself up by rubbing your earlobes. Rub and stretch the lobes starting from the bottom and moving up to the tops of your ears.
  • The Hook Up: This exercise that will help hook up your energies making your feel connected and whole again: Place your middle finger of one hand on the third eye point. Place the middle finger of the other hand in your navel. Now gently press each finger into the skin and pull upwards. Hold for about twelve to thirty seconds or longer if you wish. You will often experience a deep sigh or yawn. This lets you know your energies have hooked up.

Practicing these mind body connection exercises will help you feel more balanced. You can learn more about these Energy Medicine techniques from the video below that demonstrates all of Donna Eden’s 5 Minute Energy Routine:

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Developing Courage And Self Confidence

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Many people in the world, based on our social structure, underrate their own abilities. At school, children are made to focus on external sources for justification that they’re useful human beings in society. They mature and are convinced that their individual values rely upon other people’s approval about looks, family background, grades and so on. Courageousness is the ability to have an unstoppable sense of being able to overcome your fears. There are various ways that can assist you in developing courage and self-confidence:

  • Dressing sharp improves your physical and personal appearance; Ensure you wear clean, and fashionable clothes, shave frequently and take a shower daily.
  • Your walking style can demonstrate whether you are confident or not. People observing your walking style can judge how you feel about yourself. Is it slow and tired? Or is it fast and energetic? People who are confident walk fast, and seem to know where they are going.
  • Improve your confidence by practicing excellent posture when walking, standing or sitting. Adopt confident body language. Keep your head up and stand straight-up; This makes you feel more empowered and alert. Lethargic and slumped shoulders show a lack of confidence.
  • Compliment yourself and other people. Stop the idea of negative thoughts about yourself which we pass to others through gossip and insults. Praising people around you will help in breaking the cycle of negativity. When you look for the best in other people, you indirectly draw out the best in yourself.
  • During group discussion, speak up with a deeper and more confident voice without the fear of being judged by others. Develop courage to contribute to the conversation so that you may learn how to be a good public speaker in the future.
  • Keep your thoughts organised all the time especially during public speaking. Well-clarified and organised thoughts make you feel more confident and courageous in front of an audience. Enjoy learning tips from others to assist you in overcoming fear when addressing a gathering.
  • Make reading a habit so that you gain more knowledge on different subjects. In the long run, you become conversant in many areas and achieve wider frames of reference.

Aristotle suggests that courage is the means between recklessness and fear. You have to control and master your fear to become resolute and stronger. Courage is part of the way to overcome feelings of low confidence and low self esteem. Overcoming fear is essential in accomplishing your lifetime goals and dreams, and taking action is an effective way to conquer self-doubt.

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Self-Acceptance Exercises And Your Pure Potential

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Many people spend hours upon hours every single year, trying to hone their body into the perfect shape and size. However, one of the most important aspects of any kind of training – mental or physical – is having self-acceptance. If you think of self-acceptance as a muscle, then that muscle has to be trained and worked on constantly, so that it can function at its very best.

It’s a continual process that has to be maintained throughout your life. Everything around us changes and adapts to fit the changing environment of the world, and our bodies are no different – you need to constantly adapt, change and then accept this, or you will never succeed.

Self-acceptance exercises are much tougher than doing any type of physical exercise. You can train and harness your physical power until you can pick two people up two people at once, but you cannot train positive thinking so easily. One of the most important things to remember is that on your best day, you are still the same person as you were on your worst days, and vice versa. There is no change in you personally, just your perception from one day to the next.

Self-Acceptance Exercise

1. Get yourself comfortable; You can do this sitting or standing.

2. Looking out in front of yourself or on the floor, imagine seeing your different roles; Work Roles, Family Roles, Community Roles, Sport/Leisure Roles. You can also visualise your thoughts, habits, and patterns.

3. Simply notice these different aspects of yourself. There are good aspects and bad aspects.

4. While you are noticing these impermanent aspects of self (i.e. roles change throughout life), you can begin to wonder who are you really at this moment in time.

5. Allow yourself to become aware of this bigger sense of self; Your Essential Self – Pure Potential!

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You need to realise that self-acceptance comes from accepting you have limitations, you have flaws, but you also have many strengths and positives. Be aware of what you think about and how it comes into your mind, and think about how you can change the record. If you regularly think negatively, then you need to flex that muscle we spoke about.  Every time you feel down or have a negative thought, step back and see the bigger picture; You are made up of different roles, thoughts and feelings that come and go, with many of them being positive. Essentially you are pure potential: So who are you becoming this year, month, week, today?

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Dealing With Jealousy In Relationships

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There are many things that can attract us to somebody – it could be anything from the way they smile to the first time you ever met. Likewise, there are many things that can destroy the way we feel about somebody. Dealing with jealousy in relationships is one of the most common problems people have to face.

If you have never had the urge to check your partners phone log and see just who they were texting earlier, you are very lucky. Sadly this is often the norm these days, as couples feel incredibly insecure about what their other half does. After the initial honeymoon period ceases, some people can start to feel like the relationship is dying and therefore there must be somebody else involved. Dealing with jealousy in a relationship is one of the main steps anybody has to take, in order to feel secure and happy.

The worst thing about jealousy is that it comes from you wanting to protect what you love and hold deeply so much! Not only is it ironic, but it can be corrosive and cause irreparable damage. By being able to see that all you want is the best for your relationship, you can see how jealous behaviour can quickly damage things. When you feel that spying on your partner is doing the best for you both, you are wrong. If you find yourself acting jealous, ask yourself why you actually do this.

You may know, on reflection, that it comes down to a previous experience. Somebody may have hurt you before, or you may have seen it happen enough that you are naturally guarded. It’s important to understand that by treating your other half with distrust and contempt, you are not going to get over these prejudices. If you assume from the first thing you hear or see that they could be cheating on you, or trying to make you jealous, then you need to adapt and change.

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The only way to do this, of course, is by actually communicating. Jealousy usually comes out in the form of an immature outburst made up from paranoid thoughts that constantly swirl through your mind. Being able to get these anxieties off your chest in a calm and mature manner is by far and away the best way to deal with jealous behaviour.

Most of us feel that by mentioning our insecurities, we are either opening up too much or we are going to scare the other person away. On the other side of the coin, being extremely guarded and cautious about your time together and what they do when they are not around is not going to help. Jealous behaviour will never win you any favours, that’s for sure, and the sooner you can talk about your feelings and insecurities the better.

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Relationship Trust Exercises That Will Improve Your Communication

relationship-trust-exercises“I trust that person.” “I don’t trust that person.” We often here people make these kind of statements, but if you think about it trust is really a continuum. Your feeling of trust towards someone can increase or decrease. It’s not either-or, it’s a range of feeling. Thinking in terms of how much you trust someone is more helpful; It gives you the sense that you can learn to increase your trust in someone incrementally.

One of the interesting things about trust is that as your feelings of trust for someone changes, your perception about them as a person changes too. So what this implies is that if you change your perception of a person you can learn to increase your feelings of trust towards them – creating better relationships.

The following exercise helps you explore your feelings of trust and dis-trust and provides you with a way to increase your feelings of trust in others.

Polarities of Trust Exercise

1. Dis-Trust: Think about someone you distrust; Bring to mind a specific occasion when you were with this person, see what you saw, hear what you heard and feel those feelings of dis-trust.

2. Notice where those feelings of dis-trust are in your body; Imagine giving that feeling a colour and then create a circle of that colour beneath your feet.

3. Move away from that space, a few feet to your right.

4. Trust: Think about someone you really trust; Bring to mind a specific occasion when you were with this person, see what you saw, hear what you heard and feel those feelings of trust.

5. Notice where those feelings of trust are in your body; Imagine giving that feeling a colour and then create a circle of that colour beneath your feet.

6. Now step back from both circles so you can see them both there on the floor. Step into the Dis-Trust Circle and feel those feelings. Step back, shake that feeling off and then step into the Trust Circle and notice those feelings.

Do this a few times so you can clearly differentiate the two feelings.

7. Learning to Trust Someone More

Step into the Dis-Trust Circle; Think about someone you would like to trust more. As you picture them in your mind’s eye, look up towards the Trust Colour Circle. Take a step towards the Trust Circle. Notice how that changes your experience. And what happens when you walk fully into the Trust Space? Keep picturing the person while you allow the Trust Colour to permeate your being.

8. How does that change your experience of trust with this person? Could you now perhaps learn to trust them more?

Bonus: Polarity Integration Exercise

When you’ve done the exercise above you can integrate the polarities of Dis-Trust and Trust better with the following method:

1. Step into the space in the middle of the Dis-Trust Circle and the Trust Circle, so that one is on your left and one is on your right.

2. Picture the person you choose in the previous exercise. And now imagine the energy colour of Dis-Trust entering one side of your body, while at the same time the energy colour of Trust entering the other half of your body.

3. Allow these two energy colours to permeate your entire being while you picture the person in your mind’s eye for a few moments.

4. Now turn around 180 degrees; Do the same procedure again but with the energy colours entering into the opposites sides of your body.

5. Step back, shake that state off and now think about that person again and notice what has changed for you.

So by playing around with exercises like those above we can learn how to change our perception of others, increase our feelings of trust, and therefore improve our communication in relationships.

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7 Ways To Keep Your Spirits Up While Remaining Healthy This Winter

Winter is on it’s way… With the nights drawing in, the temperature dropping and the increase in rain, cold and damp, it’s easy to understand how people’s spirits can be dampened around winter time. So what can we do to maintain a positive outlook on life despite the external conditions? The following simple tips can help you keep your spirits up:

1. Walking in Waterproofs

Everyone knows that going for a short walk has many health benefits. Just 15 minutes will balance your brain-hemisphere’s and give you a nice general feeling of well-being. By wearing waterproofs you’ll still be dry when your back inside the house.

2. Drinking Hot Chocolate

Drink something you enjoy that is warming and stimulating in the morning. I’d recommend Chilli Hot Chocolate!

3. Raining Gratitude

When it seems to be raining constantly its easy to forget how important those water droplets are for sustaining life on planet earth. Take a few moments to feel gratitude for mother nature’s generosity and genius.

4. Summer Sounds

What’s your favourite summer music? Choose some of your favourite summer songs and play them loud! Or walk around swiftly with them playing on your MP3 player. Dance about if you can feel it!

5. Hot Bath / Spa

Enjoy a hot bath with bubbles. Or go to a Spa. Enjoy feeling the sensations of your body warming up and feel rejuvenated.

6. Bright & Colourful

Practice consciously brightening up your thoughts about upcoming events. Think about an upcoming event; Now picture it, make it bigger, increase the intensity of the colours and turn up the brightness. There you go! Why not do this on a few other future events…

7. The Warmth Of Friendship

In the winter months make a special effort to meet up with friends on a regular basis. You could schedule a weekly time to connect for chats, movies, food swaps, drinks or games.

To beat the winter blues it’s good to remember the old adage, “You get more of what you focus on.” By consciously focussing on the good things in life, and following simple methods like those above, we can maintain a positive attitude in life even when the outside world seems bleak.

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Almost Instant Motivation For Mundane Tasks

We’ve all got mundane tasks that need to be done on a a daily basis. Wouldn’t it be great if you knew how to become almost instantly motivated to complete any mundane task such as; cleaning, washing up, doing the laundry or food shopping…

The interesting thing is we can all get motivated easily about some things such as drinking your favourite cup of coffee or watching your favourite sport, while to some people those things are actually de-motivating.

In essence what this tells us is that anything can become motivating – It’s really just a matter of perspective.

So, what’s motivating to you? This could be anything you choose; Your favourite food/drink, your favourite sex act, your favourite sport, your favourite hobby…

Visualising and thinking about one of those now will give you a feeling of motivation towards doing it.

Now you can associate those feelings into the mundane task image using a special visualisation method that will generate motivation for getting the task done.

Mundane Tasks Motivation Technique

 

1. Mundane Task Image:

What is it you want to get done?

See yourself in the image of the mundane task you want to get done.

Put that image aside for the moment.

2. Choose Motivating Images:

What motivates you?

  • Your Favourite Food/Drink
  • Your Favourite Sex Act
  • Your Favourite Sport
  • Your Favourite Hobby…

Pick four things.

Picture them and make them bigger

3. Place a postage stamp sized image of the mundane task in the middle of the big motivating pictures.

4. Look at all these images at once and notice the postage sized image in the middle perhaps beginning to change.

5. If you wish you could symbolise each of the motivating images as a symbol and put it inside the  mundane task picture.

So from now on if you ever find the need to get motivated to do some mundane tasks you’ll know you can draw on some of your natural motivating thought patterns. Access them, blow up the imagery and see yourself in the middle of those pictures getting the mundane task done!

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