Future Self Meditation: How to get Help from the Wiser You

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Practicing future self meditation is a great way to tap into the enormous creative abilities of the human mind. Basically, using your imagination, you can imaginer communicating with your wiser future self. This could be a you from a few years or decades from now. Or it could be a you from a future life or even, a parallel Universe.

Performing future self meditation can reveal amazing insights that can benefit you in the present moment. Let’s say you have a project you are working on and you could use some creative insight. By communicating with the “wiser future self” it is possible to ask questions to gain insight into the best way to move forward with the project.

Useful Questions:

  • “What could that person do to solve the problem effectively?”
  • “What type of person does he/she have to become to resolve that issue?”
  • “What could that person do to move forward?”
  • “What would that you have to have learned so as to solve that problem?”
Future Self Meditation Script

1. Get yourself comfortable and relax more deeply focussing on your breathing for a while.

2. Think about a project you would like new insight/inspiration into.

3. Now imagine a wiser future you or an evolved self from a parallel universe; Notice what that you looks like. How does that you stand? Breathe? Talk?4. Notice them in front of you: Say hello. Make contact.

5. And then go ahead and ask some questions. Take your time to allow your future self to answer fully.

6. When satisfied, thank your future self and come back to the here and now and write down any new insights you gained from the interaction.

By practicing this type of future self meditation you can quickly establish good rapport with your future self, enabling you to more quickly tap into this vast resource of creativity. The fact is life is going to keep presenting us with challenges. So what would happen if you were to imagine having a conversation with your wiser future self, asking for guidance on how to be more resilient, more resourceful and more persevering?

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Movement Meditation Exercises for Increased Well-Being

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Think there is no possible way that you can stay still long enough to meditate? Think again! Movement meditation exercises can be used on a daily basis to move while you meditate. Anytime that you are mindful about how you are moving your body, you are actually practicing medication, much like those who do yoga, tai chi, or even martial arts. Here, I will share some of my favourite movement meditation techniques. Movement meditation is very easy and fun. You can start today. All you have to do is put your mind to it.

Any Movement Will Do

The first thing that you’ll want to know is that any movement can be used as part of movement meditation. You can walk, wriggle, move your arms, or even dance. All that you must really do is be very mindful of what is going on. Be sure that you are doing these movements slowly and intentionally. Putting yourself in a quiet space, alone, with even a bit of calming music, can really help. Use whatever movement you like the best for movement meditation exercises. Then, just get going…

Rules for Movement Meditation

I’ve already mentioned a few of the rules of movement meditation. Here are a few others that will help you get the best out of your daily meditation:

  • Be sure to pay attention to every part of your body, not just the one you are currently moving.
  • Pay attention to every detail. This includes how your muscles are moving, what the current space feels like, what the floor feels like when you touch it, your heartbeat, and your breath.
  • Move slowly. Let your body move at the pace it wants to move at and simply experience the motion.
  • Think about how you are moving, not why you are moving.

Movement Meditation Techniques

There are plenty of movement meditation techniques, some of them include:

  • Finding your perfect posture while sitting or standing. Move any part of your body that feels uncomfortable until you find the perfect way to either sit or stand.
  • Breathe at your natural pace. Now, sync all your movements with the rhythm of your own breathing.
  • Keep in rhythm with your heartbeat while you move.
  • Take a moment to massage one part of the body. Pay attention to how it feels. Also pay attention to how the area you are massaging, as well as your hands, are moving.

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How to be More Courageous in Life

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Sometimes we all focus too much on our mistakes. We focus too much on what is negative about us and not enough about the positive. We think, “I am not strong” or “I am weak,” rather than “I am strong” and “I am courageous.” We all need a reminder every now and again that we are, indeed strong, courageous people. So what do we need to do to be more courageous in life? Read on to find out more…

Write a List

One of the best ways to be courageous is to remember all the times that you have felt courageous. So, write a list of all the times in your life that you have felt brave, courageous, and strong. Look at it when you need a reminder that you are not a weak person.

Make a Bucket List … and DO IT!

Another way to be more courageous in your life is to make a bucket list. If you do not know what a bucket list is, a bucket list is a list of things you have always wanted to do or see or experience in your life. It is a list you want to complete before you die. So write it down. Nothing is too ridiculous. Have you always wanted to cruise to Alaska? Put it on there. Bungee jump? That is a perfect entry. See the Eiffel Tower? Great!

Making the bucket list is the easy part. The hard part is challenging yourself to DO IT. Being courageous means putting yourself first and taking chances.

Put Yourself First

Another way to be more courageous in your life is to put yourself first. This can be hard to do because we sometimes have a tendency to put everyone’s needs ahead of our own. Be brave, be courageous, and tell people “no” every once and a while. Focus on your needs. That is not selfish. It is brave.

Fulfilling that bucket list means that you put yourself first anyway. So if you want to take the trip of a lifetime, do it. There is nothing stopping you. Do not get bogged down by the “I cannot because…” that brings all of us down sometimes. There is always a way. Do not have enough money? Cut cable. Spend less at the coffee house. Ask your spouse to spend less on a hobby. The point here is that anything is possible as long as you are brave enough to want it and brave enough to ask for it.

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How to Get Motivated to do Anything

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Knowing what motivation is, and the easiest ways to get motivated, will help you in getting motivated for any task, whether its temporary or permanent. What Is It? Motivation is the willingness to complete a task.

Motivation is a common thread in sports, dream pursuing, and exercising, as most of the times we find ourselves avoiding certain tasks because they are difficult or an inconvenience. While this may be fine for some people, many of us will find that bettering ourselves, both physically and mentally, requires some sort of motivation. Completing high school? Motivation. Getting a job? Motivation. Almost everything you do, that forces you to work hard on both yourself and your surrounding area, is down to motivating yourself.

Motivation: How To Get It

The great thing about motivation, is it doesn’t require a sudden, drastic improvement in yourself, it’s more to do with taking baby steps towards whatever goal you set forth. Are you looking for that promotion at your job? While it will require some motivation to push past your current job status, it doesn’t require you to over-work yourself. Take small steps… For example you could make sure the tasks that you are required to complete at your job are not only completed, but completed in a quicker time than your usual completion rate.

Three Simple Ways to Boost Your Motivation Instantly

1. The Why?

Ask yourself, “Why is this goal important to me?”

You can then repeat the question on that answer to reveal more of your motivating values such as; a sense of freedom, satisfaction, excitement, fulfilment etc.

2. Movie Music

A. Think of the activity you want to get motivated about.

B. Think of some motivating music. (eg Military marching music, dance music, rock music…)

C. Now over there on a movie screen you can see yourself doing the activity and you can hear the motivating music loud and clear.

D. Step into the scene and imagine doing the activity whilst hearing the music inside your mind. Is the music you selected motivating you?

3. Physiology Change

A. Remember a time you were really motivated to do something and notice what your posture was like at the time. How were you standing, what was your head position, how did you breath, what was your pulse rate like etc?

B. Now shift into this posture and feel the difference whilst thinking about the thing you want to get motivated about.

It’s also useful to be motivated with the inspiration of others. Find a role model to be inspired by, whether it be a family member, a famous actor, or a business guru. Their story of inspiration can make you believe it is possible to achieve a goal. Daily contemplation on the achievement of your goal will keep it fresh in your mind. Don’t set a goal that is too difficult, but have a goal that stretches you. The most challenging of goals, while they may be more difficult to complete, are usually the most rewarding and satisfying to us.

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How To Attract Good Luck Into Your Life

how-to-attract-good-luck-into-your-lifeWhat do a rabbit’s foot, a four-leaf clover and an upwards facing horseshoe have in common?  If you said they are all symbols that people consider lucky, then you would be correct.  There are many symbols, sayings and traditions that people from around the world use as ways to attract good luck.  Whether they work or not is debatable, but you, along with many others, may want to know how to attract good luck into your life.

The Law of Attraction

Many people believe that if you believe something will happen, then it will come to fruition.  The idea behind the Law of Attraction is that like attracts like, so if you have positive thoughts, positive things will happen and, conversely, if you have negative thoughts, bad things will happen.  In a way, this concept works well with the saying that, “you make your own luck.”

People who stick to the idea that “you make your own luck” are talking about being assertive, trying new ways to do things, setting goals and working hard to achieve.  However, having a positive thought process is necessary to do many of those things, which is a principal of the Law or Attraction.  A positive thought process, or positive energy, is a way to attract good things into your life.

Ways to Attract Luck

While it may seem that some people are lucky, there are ways you can be lucky as well.  Try these tips for bringing good luck into your life:

Practice Positive Thinking

Not only may it bring you luck, but it can relieve stress and help you live longer.  That’s lucky, right?

Try Visualisation

This technique is done by seeing and believing something happen that you want to have happen. Visual a new job or your new car.

Use Feng Shui

Decorating your room with Feng Shui can help increase the flow of positive energy, which can help bring you luck.

Pray for Luck

Many people pray to a higher power and ask for something lucky to happen to them.  Maybe it is about getting that new car, new job or better health.

Try increasing your luck by thinking positively because if you believe good things never happen to you, then they probably never will.  The law of attraction works both ways, either you attract good things and are lucky or you attract bad things to yourself.

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Broken Heart Advice: How To Heal A Broken Heart

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Looking for ways to mend a broken heart and bring yourself back into the real world? You have come to the right place, then. The heart is a delicate thing and it wants what it wants; We cannot decide who we love, or who we don’t. It just happens, and when somebody your heart aches for wants nothing to do with you it can be a seriously difficult thing to get over. It’s a tough place to be for many people, and rejection can leave you thinking about doing things you usually wouldn’t.

The first thing that you need to do to put yourself on the winning track is to forge forward through the problem, not around. Avoiding the person who hurt you is not going to make things easier. If you need to see this person regularly, start treating them with a new outlook. They don’t want your heart, so why should you give them more attention or care than anybody else gets? Don’t let yourself fall into a trap whereby you can still be at this person’s beck and call. It might be nice to think that you could both be friends afterwards but it rarely works out. Is it worth constantly feeling like you are hanging around waiting?

A broken heart can only be healed when you truly decide to move forward and look elsewhere. The easiest way to do this is to simply move beyond the dark thoughts. When you are in your weak moments, it’s important to remind yourself of this – you got here through dealing with adversity, and you only need to do the same again tomorrow.

Three Simple Ways to Heal a Broken Heart

1. Focus on the Abundance of Love in Your Life Already

Place your hands on your heart while thinking about all the love that is already in your life; Friends, family, pets, music, food, nature, books, art…

2. Stop Obsessing About Them With, The Shrink & Blink

A) Do you find yourself obsessing about your lost love? When you think about that person, notice the image that comes to mind.

B) Now put a frame around that image and send it off into the distance. Notice it shrinking down into a small picture, like a postage stamp or even as small as a single dot.

C) Blink it on and off black and white really fast. Like a strobe light.

D) Do it again. See the image, put a frame around it and then send it off into the distance really quickly and shrink it down to a dot and then blink it black and white really fast!

3. Use Energy EFT Tapping to Reduce the Pain

A broken heart can feel very painful. You can use techniques such as EFT to reduce the heartache and instead replace those negative feelings with positive resourceful feelings.

There’s nothing that can come from a broken heart that will finish you off – with enough determination to live and love again, you can move on from the most stunning and difficult of heartbreaks. Remind yourself how good love feels, and you can discover it elsewhere.

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5 Writing Therapy Exercises That Can Ease Your Pain

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It’s amazing how a simple act of putting word to paper can help heal a person.  Writing therapy is a process where writing is used to help a person express his or her feelings on paper. In the process of writing, the patient is able to focus on the inner-self and release the heavy and sometimes painful feelings that they cannot express through other means. The therapy can be conducted individually, as a group or under the guidance of a therapist.

When can writing therapy be applied?

Just like other forms of therapies that are used to heal different ailments, therapeutic writing is used to help a person get out of a mental state that makes him feel rejected, neglected, fearful and so on. The therapy is carried out by having the patient write articles or unsent letters to the persons that may have put him or her in that mental situation. The imagined recipients may be dead or alive, and the writing is followed by imagined replies from those people.

5 Writing Therapy Exercises

  • Write a Letter to Yourself

Everyone talks to themselves inside their heads. Writing down your conversations with yourself onto paper helps clarify your thought processes and leads to better understanding and healing.

  • Write Letters to Others

If someone has upset you, you can write a letter expressing all of your thoughts and feelings. Be totally honest and allow yourself to express exactly what you really want to say. But don’t actually send the letter. You could also imagine the person responding to your letter and writing back to you.

  • Write a Poem

Express your thoughts and feelings using poetic words and rhythms. Use a dictionary to find just the right words to convey your experience.

  • Free Writing

Give yourself 10, 15 or 20 minutes and simply write down everything that comes to mind. Just write non-stop; Do not judge, correct or stop. Get everything out onto paper!

  • Mind Mapping

Drawing Mind Maps can help you untangle stressed-out thoughts. Starting in the middle, write down you main problem. You then add branches to this that get more into the specific aspects of your problem.

So if you are feeling stressed or have a problem you would like to solve, why not have a go at some writing therapy exercises like those above?

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Fast Decision Making Made Easy With The Power Of Intuition

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Moment by moment our senses are bombarded with vast amounts of data. We can only pay attention to a small fraction of this sensory input consciously. But the unconscious regions of the mind take in and store huge quantities of information coming in through the senses. A common metaphor illustrates this; Picture an iceberg in the sea. You can see the top jutting out. That represents your conscious mind. Underwater, out of sight, lays a much larger chunk of ice – the unconscious.

The information stored in our unconscious mind is what helps us with intuitive decision making. We can learn to trust our intuitive abilities more and therefore make better and quicker decisions. This is a great skill to develop in the busy modern world.

Here’s an interesting fact: Your mind has to distinguish a Good Decision from a Bad Decision. It does this by representing that decision (Memory Picture) in a specific location in space, usually in front of you to the left or right.

You can easily become aware of your own decision making thought patterns by thinking about a good decision you made; Maybe you decided to buy a great gadget and you were pleased you did! And then think about a bad decision you made, nothing major, something such as deciding to go to the movies and it turned out to be rubbish.

decision-making-techniquesNow what you want to do is alternate between thinking about the good decision verses the bad decision and notice how they are located in different locations in space. One is probably more to the left or to the right? Is one nearer or further away from you?

This is very useful information. It’s the way your unconscious mind codes your memories to instantly distinguish a good decision from a bad decision.

With this knowledge we can now tap into this unconscious processing mechanism, allowing us to make intuitive decisions in a snap! If you were to think about an upcoming decision you are going to have to make, what options or choices come to mind? Think about each choice, one at a time, and notice where they are located in space. The one that is nearest your Good Decision Location is the best option to choose at this moment in time.

So go ahead now and practice thinking about a few more upcoming decisions you need to make, noticing the locations in space.

Fast Intuitive Decision Making Technique 

1. Notice where you locate in space a Good Decision verses a Bad Decision you made. Is one more to the left or right? Is one near or further away from you?

2. Now think about an upcoming decision you will have to make. Think about the options or choices you have and become aware of where those choices are located in space.

3. The choice nearest to your Good Decision Location is the best option to take at this moment in time.

Remember your unconscious mind knows a lot more than your conscious ego mind does. Decision making techniques like the one above enables you to tap into the power of your unconscious resources resulting in quicker, more intuitive decision making results. So by making a habit of noticing where your choices for decisions are located in space, you will develop the habit of being able to choose the best option, leading to more consistent good decisions.

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How To Be More Positive And Confident

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Do you ever find yourself in situations, maybe at work or when interacting with certain people, where you just wish you could be in a more resourceful state of mind? Don’t you want to know how to be more positive and confident in the area’s of life that you would enjoy a certain feeling of power and control?

The interesting thing is there probably are certain contexts in your life where you do feel positive and resourceful. This could be one of your activities in your leisure time; Maybe a sport, cooking, writing, travelling, playing music or walking in nature.

The good news is we can tap into these resourceful experiences, capture that positive emotional energy, and transfer it into situations in our life where it would be really useful.

Follow the simple step-by-step technique below to be more positive and confident in the situation of your choosing:

          1. Remember an experience where you felt positive and confident; Maybe you were in nature; a forest, the sea, on a mountain, by a river etc.
          2. Relive that experience as much as possible: See what you saw, hear what you heard, smell the smells and notice the feelings in your body.
          3. Anchor this feeling with a body movement/gesture. Maybe it’s a hand gesture or a movement of your whole body. Repeat this movement a few times so those positive feelings get associated with it.
          4. Now think about an upcoming situation where you would like to feel more resourceful: What do you see or hear just before entering into that situation?
          5. And now perform your gesture to re-experience the positive, confident feelings.
          6. Repeat from Step-D a few more times so that your unconscious mind re-programs the associations into resourcefulness.
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All the responses that we have to the different situations and interactions in our life are learned responses. Of course we get into habitual patterns and our behaviour becomes unconscious. But by using techniques like those above we can learn to be in a more resourceful state in the situations of our choosing.

So where else could you enjoy more power, resourcefulness and confidence in your life right now?

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How To Overcome Communication Problems in a Relationship

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Sometimes relationships can come to a head over nothing. One day you find each other irresistible and the next you cannot wait to be departed from one another. The complexity of relationships is not lost on most people, with almost half of marriages ending in divorce in the United States following recent trends and reports. A huge proportion of these divorces come from arguments and couples not being able to relax together. This tends to come from severe communications breakdown.

Being unable to find passion when talking to one another, finding that the same things are being said over again and again, running into the same arguments and debates. Does any of this sound familiar? This is a merry-go round that many people find themselves running around constantly.

However, instead of letting these communication problems bring an end to your relationship, why not have ago at answering the following three questions for yourself:

Am I the problem?

Think about the arguments and the debates that you have; What are you arguing about?

Who is usually the one to escalate the events?

If it’s the same thing you are arguing over time and time again, then usually one is the aggressor in bringing it up and the other is on the defensive. This could be anything from one member of the relationship being unhappy at the other to discussions about where you will live.

No matter what side of the camp you are on, you need to consider if your attitude towards the issue is the problem.

Is it a matter that is easily discussed?

Could you both come at the conversation from a different angle that may end in a more positive outcome?

How do they feel?

Imagine putting yourself in the shoes of your other half: How does it feel?

Think about the things that you say or the way that you act in the situations that are causing problems.

How would you react if they acted in the same manner?

You might be totally in the right, but sometimes a period of reflection from the perspective of the other person can be a sobering experience that leads you to see that there could be other ways of resolving these issues.

Do we end in an argument?

How often do you find a resolution to what you are arguing about?

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Rather than letting things get out of hand and things getting said that should never have been, try and come to a way of diffusing the argument and bringing it back to a discussion; You might find that you get some actual results this way.

Working together is the only way that you can break down these barriers and sometimes a period of self-reflection on the way you handled things, as well as the way that your partner reacted, can allow you to reach conclusions you may never have come to on your own.

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