How to Get Motivated to do Anything

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Knowing what motivation is, and the easiest ways to get motivated, will help you in getting motivated for any task, whether its temporary or permanent. What Is It? Motivation is the willingness to complete a task.

Motivation is a common thread in sports, dream pursuing, and exercising, as most of the times we find ourselves avoiding certain tasks because they are difficult or an inconvenience. While this may be fine for some people, many of us will find that bettering ourselves, both physically and mentally, requires some sort of motivation. Completing high school? Motivation. Getting a job? Motivation. Almost everything you do, that forces you to work hard on both yourself and your surrounding area, is down to motivating yourself.

Motivation: How To Get It

The great thing about motivation, is it doesn’t require a sudden, drastic improvement in yourself, it’s more to do with taking baby steps towards whatever goal you set forth. Are you looking for that promotion at your job? While it will require some motivation to push past your current job status, it doesn’t require you to over-work yourself. Take small steps… For example you could make sure the tasks that you are required to complete at your job are not only completed, but completed in a quicker time than your usual completion rate.

Three Simple Ways to Boost Your Motivation Instantly

1. The Why?

Ask yourself, “Why is this goal important to me?”

You can then repeat the question on that answer to reveal more of your motivating values such as; a sense of freedom, satisfaction, excitement, fulfilment etc.

2. Movie Music

A. Think of the activity you want to get motivated about.

B. Think of some motivating music. (eg Military marching music, dance music, rock music…)

C. Now over there on a movie screen you can see yourself doing the activity and you can hear the motivating music loud and clear.

D. Step into the scene and imagine doing the activity whilst hearing the music inside your mind. Is the music you selected motivating you?

3. Physiology Change

A. Remember a time you were really motivated to do something and notice what your posture was like at the time. How were you standing, what was your head position, how did you breath, what was your pulse rate like etc?

B. Now shift into this posture and feel the difference whilst thinking about the thing you want to get motivated about.

It’s also useful to be motivated with the inspiration of others. Find a role model to be inspired by, whether it be a family member, a famous actor, or a business guru. Their story of inspiration can make you believe it is possible to achieve a goal. Daily contemplation on the achievement of your goal will keep it fresh in your mind. Don’t set a goal that is too difficult, but have a goal that stretches you. The most challenging of goals, while they may be more difficult to complete, are usually the most rewarding and satisfying to us.

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How To Attract Good Luck Into Your Life

how-to-attract-good-luck-into-your-lifeWhat do a rabbit’s foot, a four-leaf clover and an upwards facing horseshoe have in common?  If you said they are all symbols that people consider lucky, then you would be correct.  There are many symbols, sayings and traditions that people from around the world use as ways to attract good luck.  Whether they work or not is debatable, but you, along with many others, may want to know how to attract good luck into your life.

The Law of Attraction

Many people believe that if you believe something will happen, then it will come to fruition.  The idea behind the Law of Attraction is that like attracts like, so if you have positive thoughts, positive things will happen and, conversely, if you have negative thoughts, bad things will happen.  In a way, this concept works well with the saying that, “you make your own luck.”

People who stick to the idea that “you make your own luck” are talking about being assertive, trying new ways to do things, setting goals and working hard to achieve.  However, having a positive thought process is necessary to do many of those things, which is a principal of the Law or Attraction.  A positive thought process, or positive energy, is a way to attract good things into your life.

Ways to Attract Luck

While it may seem that some people are lucky, there are ways you can be lucky as well.  Try these tips for bringing good luck into your life:

Practice Positive Thinking

Not only may it bring you luck, but it can relieve stress and help you live longer.  That’s lucky, right?

Try Visualisation

This technique is done by seeing and believing something happen that you want to have happen. Visual a new job or your new car.

Use Feng Shui

Decorating your room with Feng Shui can help increase the flow of positive energy, which can help bring you luck.

Pray for Luck

Many people pray to a higher power and ask for something lucky to happen to them.  Maybe it is about getting that new car, new job or better health.

Try increasing your luck by thinking positively because if you believe good things never happen to you, then they probably never will.  The law of attraction works both ways, either you attract good things and are lucky or you attract bad things to yourself.

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Broken Heart Advice: How To Heal A Broken Heart

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Looking for ways to mend a broken heart and bring yourself back into the real world? You have come to the right place, then. The heart is a delicate thing and it wants what it wants; We cannot decide who we love, or who we don’t. It just happens, and when somebody your heart aches for wants nothing to do with you it can be a seriously difficult thing to get over. It’s a tough place to be for many people, and rejection can leave you thinking about doing things you usually wouldn’t.

The first thing that you need to do to put yourself on the winning track is to forge forward through the problem, not around. Avoiding the person who hurt you is not going to make things easier. If you need to see this person regularly, start treating them with a new outlook. They don’t want your heart, so why should you give them more attention or care than anybody else gets? Don’t let yourself fall into a trap whereby you can still be at this person’s beck and call. It might be nice to think that you could both be friends afterwards but it rarely works out. Is it worth constantly feeling like you are hanging around waiting?

A broken heart can only be healed when you truly decide to move forward and look elsewhere. The easiest way to do this is to simply move beyond the dark thoughts. When you are in your weak moments, it’s important to remind yourself of this – you got here through dealing with adversity, and you only need to do the same again tomorrow.

Three Simple Ways to Heal a Broken Heart

1. Focus on the Abundance of Love in Your Life Already

Place your hands on your heart while thinking about all the love that is already in your life; Friends, family, pets, music, food, nature, books, art…

2. Stop Obsessing About Them With, The Shrink & Blink

A) Do you find yourself obsessing about your lost love? When you think about that person, notice the image that comes to mind.

B) Now put a frame around that image and send it off into the distance. Notice it shrinking down into a small picture, like a postage stamp or even as small as a single dot.

C) Blink it on and off black and white really fast. Like a strobe light.

D) Do it again. See the image, put a frame around it and then send it off into the distance really quickly and shrink it down to a dot and then blink it black and white really fast!

3. Use Energy EFT Tapping to Reduce the Pain

A broken heart can feel very painful. You can use techniques such as EFT to reduce the heartache and instead replace those negative feelings with positive resourceful feelings.

There’s nothing that can come from a broken heart that will finish you off – with enough determination to live and love again, you can move on from the most stunning and difficult of heartbreaks. Remind yourself how good love feels, and you can discover it elsewhere.

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5 Writing Therapy Exercises That Can Ease Your Pain

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It’s amazing how a simple act of putting word to paper can help heal a person.  Writing therapy is a process where writing is used to help a person express his or her feelings on paper. In the process of writing, the patient is able to focus on the inner-self and release the heavy and sometimes painful feelings that they cannot express through other means. The therapy can be conducted individually, as a group or under the guidance of a therapist.

When can writing therapy be applied?

Just like other forms of therapies that are used to heal different ailments, therapeutic writing is used to help a person get out of a mental state that makes him feel rejected, neglected, fearful and so on. The therapy is carried out by having the patient write articles or unsent letters to the persons that may have put him or her in that mental situation. The imagined recipients may be dead or alive, and the writing is followed by imagined replies from those people.

5 Writing Therapy Exercises

  • Write a Letter to Yourself

Everyone talks to themselves inside their heads. Writing down your conversations with yourself onto paper helps clarify your thought processes and leads to better understanding and healing.

  • Write Letters to Others

If someone has upset you, you can write a letter expressing all of your thoughts and feelings. Be totally honest and allow yourself to express exactly what you really want to say. But don’t actually send the letter. You could also imagine the person responding to your letter and writing back to you.

  • Write a Poem

Express your thoughts and feelings using poetic words and rhythms. Use a dictionary to find just the right words to convey your experience.

  • Free Writing

Give yourself 10, 15 or 20 minutes and simply write down everything that comes to mind. Just write non-stop; Do not judge, correct or stop. Get everything out onto paper!

  • Mind Mapping

Drawing Mind Maps can help you untangle stressed-out thoughts. Starting in the middle, write down you main problem. You then add branches to this that get more into the specific aspects of your problem.

So if you are feeling stressed or have a problem you would like to solve, why not have a go at some writing therapy exercises like those above?

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Fast Decision Making Made Easy With The Power Of Intuition

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Moment by moment our senses are bombarded with vast amounts of data. We can only pay attention to a small fraction of this sensory input consciously. But the unconscious regions of the mind take in and store huge quantities of information coming in through the senses. A common metaphor illustrates this; Picture an iceberg in the sea. You can see the top jutting out. That represents your conscious mind. Underwater, out of sight, lays a much larger chunk of ice – the unconscious.

The information stored in our unconscious mind is what helps us with intuitive decision making. We can learn to trust our intuitive abilities more and therefore make better and quicker decisions. This is a great skill to develop in the busy modern world.

Here’s an interesting fact: Your mind has to distinguish a Good Decision from a Bad Decision. It does this by representing that decision (Memory Picture) in a specific location in space, usually in front of you to the left or right.

You can easily become aware of your own decision making thought patterns by thinking about a good decision you made; Maybe you decided to buy a great gadget and you were pleased you did! And then think about a bad decision you made, nothing major, something such as deciding to go to the movies and it turned out to be rubbish.

decision-making-techniquesNow what you want to do is alternate between thinking about the good decision verses the bad decision and notice how they are located in different locations in space. One is probably more to the left or to the right? Is one nearer or further away from you?

This is very useful information. It’s the way your unconscious mind codes your memories to instantly distinguish a good decision from a bad decision.

With this knowledge we can now tap into this unconscious processing mechanism, allowing us to make intuitive decisions in a snap! If you were to think about an upcoming decision you are going to have to make, what options or choices come to mind? Think about each choice, one at a time, and notice where they are located in space. The one that is nearest your Good Decision Location is the best option to choose at this moment in time.

So go ahead now and practice thinking about a few more upcoming decisions you need to make, noticing the locations in space.

Fast Intuitive Decision Making Technique 

1. Notice where you locate in space a Good Decision verses a Bad Decision you made. Is one more to the left or right? Is one near or further away from you?

2. Now think about an upcoming decision you will have to make. Think about the options or choices you have and become aware of where those choices are located in space.

3. The choice nearest to your Good Decision Location is the best option to take at this moment in time.

Remember your unconscious mind knows a lot more than your conscious ego mind does. Decision making techniques like the one above enables you to tap into the power of your unconscious resources resulting in quicker, more intuitive decision making results. So by making a habit of noticing where your choices for decisions are located in space, you will develop the habit of being able to choose the best option, leading to more consistent good decisions.

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How To Be More Positive And Confident

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Do you ever find yourself in situations, maybe at work or when interacting with certain people, where you just wish you could be in a more resourceful state of mind? Don’t you want to know how to be more positive and confident in the area’s of life that you would enjoy a certain feeling of power and control?

The interesting thing is there probably are certain contexts in your life where you do feel positive and resourceful. This could be one of your activities in your leisure time; Maybe a sport, cooking, writing, travelling, playing music or walking in nature.

The good news is we can tap into these resourceful experiences, capture that positive emotional energy, and transfer it into situations in our life where it would be really useful.

Follow the simple step-by-step technique below to be more positive and confident in the situation of your choosing:

          1. Remember an experience where you felt positive and confident; Maybe you were in nature; a forest, the sea, on a mountain, by a river etc.
          2. Relive that experience as much as possible: See what you saw, hear what you heard, smell the smells and notice the feelings in your body.
          3. Anchor this feeling with a body movement/gesture. Maybe it’s a hand gesture or a movement of your whole body. Repeat this movement a few times so those positive feelings get associated with it.
          4. Now think about an upcoming situation where you would like to feel more resourceful: What do you see or hear just before entering into that situation?
          5. And now perform your gesture to re-experience the positive, confident feelings.
          6. Repeat from Step-D a few more times so that your unconscious mind re-programs the associations into resourcefulness.
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All the responses that we have to the different situations and interactions in our life are learned responses. Of course we get into habitual patterns and our behaviour becomes unconscious. But by using techniques like those above we can learn to be in a more resourceful state in the situations of our choosing.

So where else could you enjoy more power, resourcefulness and confidence in your life right now?

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How To Overcome Communication Problems in a Relationship

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Sometimes relationships can come to a head over nothing. One day you find each other irresistible and the next you cannot wait to be departed from one another. The complexity of relationships is not lost on most people, with almost half of marriages ending in divorce in the United States following recent trends and reports. A huge proportion of these divorces come from arguments and couples not being able to relax together. This tends to come from severe communications breakdown.

Being unable to find passion when talking to one another, finding that the same things are being said over again and again, running into the same arguments and debates. Does any of this sound familiar? This is a merry-go round that many people find themselves running around constantly.

However, instead of letting these communication problems bring an end to your relationship, why not have ago at answering the following three questions for yourself:

Am I the problem?

Think about the arguments and the debates that you have; What are you arguing about?

Who is usually the one to escalate the events?

If it’s the same thing you are arguing over time and time again, then usually one is the aggressor in bringing it up and the other is on the defensive. This could be anything from one member of the relationship being unhappy at the other to discussions about where you will live.

No matter what side of the camp you are on, you need to consider if your attitude towards the issue is the problem.

Is it a matter that is easily discussed?

Could you both come at the conversation from a different angle that may end in a more positive outcome?

How do they feel?

Imagine putting yourself in the shoes of your other half: How does it feel?

Think about the things that you say or the way that you act in the situations that are causing problems.

How would you react if they acted in the same manner?

You might be totally in the right, but sometimes a period of reflection from the perspective of the other person can be a sobering experience that leads you to see that there could be other ways of resolving these issues.

Do we end in an argument?

How often do you find a resolution to what you are arguing about?

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Rather than letting things get out of hand and things getting said that should never have been, try and come to a way of diffusing the argument and bringing it back to a discussion; You might find that you get some actual results this way.

Working together is the only way that you can break down these barriers and sometimes a period of self-reflection on the way you handled things, as well as the way that your partner reacted, can allow you to reach conclusions you may never have come to on your own.

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How To Feel Happy About Yourself

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How often do you find yourself just sitting back at home, content? One of the most difficult things to accomplish in this world is self-satisfaction and for the majority of us this is because we don’t want to feel arrogant or smug. However, having a favourable opinion of yourself, the work you do and the life you lead is very important to stay in high spirits and actually being able to progress and improve your life.

First things first – giving yourself a pat on the back for succeeding or doing well is not something you should be embarrassed about. In fact, it should be applauded – humility and being able to see when you have done a good thing or a good deed is really important!

Feeling happy about yourself is all about feeling comfortable with yourself and your lifestyle. Are you somebody you would like to be friends with? Answering this question can give you some of the answers you seek…

Finding personal happiness can be a long struggle for many people because they don’t feel like they deserve to be happy. But why shouldn’t you? You deserve to be as happy as anyone else – it’s your birthright.

Many of us are quick to judge others for their actions, but this comes from a feeling of unease in our own lives. If you regularly snipe at others and can’t wait to find fault, it’s usually because you aren’t 100% happy with your own life.

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It’s best to always be looking to be positive even in the most negative and downward of situations – nothing is unbeatable, nothing is unstoppable. Having a mentality of being able to beat the stacked odds is key to having happiness in your own life. Every time you do something stupid or regretful, find out why you’ve done it in your own mind; There will be something useful to learn.

Likewise, every time you do something good analyse why this happened, and how you can take your positive actions even further; How can they change yet more lives? Selflessness is a great feeling when you help others and go out of your way to be useful to more than just yourself. So take the opportunity the next time you can to do a good deed, it will go a long way to helping you feel better about yourself!

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Mindfulness Meditation Exercises for Anxiety

An anxious day is going to be a bad day. You’ll feel unfulfilled, overwhelmed and won’t hit your targets or get anywhere near them, in fact. However, there are many tricks and tips you can use to reset your balance and give yourself some time to just take a breath, and think. Being able to do this is very important as it will save you from having days where things just get that little bit too much for you.

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Using mindfulness mediation techniques, you can push out stress and anxiety from your system. This effective meditation will help you move on from a day that has just had too many negatives, and allow you to have more control over your body again.

As you can imagine, meditating for the first time can be really difficult. You feel like a child again, unable to sit in silence. Make sure your practice sessions are only a few minutes long at first – too long and you can start to interfere with your mind and lose any positivity your practice has built up.

Over time, your will be able to hold the meditation for longer – but at first, you will just need to concentrate on getting into the state. Your environment also plays a big role in the success of your meditation practice. All you need is an area of your home that is without distraction and where you won’t be interrupted. Take off all heavy jewellery and shoes, so you can be as free and comfortable as your body will allow.

Keep in mind that meditation is not like doing squats or using the punchbag – there’s no specific aggressor that will start the process for you. As soon as you’re comfortable and no longer distracted by the world around you, then you can start to meditate. Once you are comfortable, start focusing on what’s going on inside –get some breathing exercises going to try and take your mind away from the normal thought processes.

If you find yourself wandering mentally, keep returning to the breathing exercises. However, don’t let yourself become so focused that you drift off into a sleep and lose your progress entirely! The most important part of any mindfulness meditation is to acknowledge your thoughts.

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During your focused period, you will need to fight off a huge array of negative and paranoid thoughts. Instead of pushing them aside as if you are running through a crowd, listen to these problems and these fears – let them pass off after they have had their say. Learning to sit in your own mind is so important for mental maturity; it will stop you reacting for no reason.

When you feel like you have made some progress on this front, and you have confronted your own mentality, simply bring yourself back to reality and do some stretches to get yourself more fully present. Take some time to reflect on what you just learned – did it help you? Do you feel any better?

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Getting Into The Flow State Of Mind

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The mind is still one of the greatest human mysteries, and to this day we still have very little idea about certain functions of the mind and how we actually operate.

However, one common attribute that you hear mentioned in recent years has been getting into the flow state of mind. This is argued to be the be all and end all of happiness – being able to consistently live in the flow state of mind is the main ingredient for living a constantly happy life.

Therefore, by learning how to get into the flow state of mind, you can instantly open yourself to a far more positive lifestyle in general. You will find that you get more done, your overall confidence and happiness increases, and you’ll have more time to answer every question. This is because your mind is less confused and setback by a difficult question – it merely answers it.

The flow state is the state whereby everything else stops bothering you. How annoying is it when you are trying to work, but cannot concentrate? It puts you off and your work suffers, which annoys you even more. However, when in the flow state you simply don’t pick up on other things. You don’t hear chatter, you don’t notice you are hungry or your arms are beginning to hurt, it puts you into a completely new state.

Many jobs actually require this level of concentration and strength to do them properly. Certain occupations, such as being a music composer, requires virtually full attention from you just to start to get it right. The flow state of mind takes away anything that could be seen as a hindrance to your success completely out of your train of thought and even your attention zone.

The best way to get yourself into the flow state of mind is to:

  • Find something that challenges you – make sure you enjoy it, but it gives your brain a battle to get it finished
  • It HAS to be challenging – if something is easy for you it will become boring, meaning you cannot get into the flow. If something is too hard, though, you’ll get stuck in a frustrated loop. Find something you enjoy but struggle with just enough it takes your full dedication to succeed
  • Set your goals, meaning that before you start you have clear criteria that you need to reach. This means that you can go into your state of trance with a clear point of entry and exit, allowing you to get in there in a state of flow and complete the task at hand
  • The only way to get into the process though is to eliminate any distractions from your room. Just solely concentrate on your task at hand and how you are going to complete it; nothing else at all. This will eventually help you enter the state of flow – you won’t realise it until you come out, but the work in front of you will be inspired in comparison to work took on at normal capacity.
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