Conflict Management Techniques

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When working in a collective, conflicts are difficult to avoid. People are different and think differently, so conflicts can appear because of the differences between the perspectives people have. It’s normal that it occurs in working environments and should not be regarded as necessarily a bad thing. When a conflict occurs, it may also mean that there is a place for improvements and changes. So it is important how one handles the situation to make a conflict turn into an experience to learn from. Here are some conflict management techniques to help ease the conflict and improve the situation:

The Competing Method

Known both as competing or forcing, it means to hold firmly onto your own opinions and concerns, regardless of the level of resistance you receive from your opponent. It is a technique used when you meet hostility and aggression because it can come with a quick solving of a conflict, especially when other methods failed. But this method may be energy consuming, so if you choose it you should be prepared for a long battle.

The Collaborating Technique

As the name suggests it, this involves a more diplomatic approach to the problem. You should try to work with the opponent and try to find a middle ground solution for solving the issue so that you are both content in the end. This method is more beneficial because it gives both parties the opportunity to collaborate together, creating a solution that is much better compared to the previous method. It increases both the satisfaction of solving the conflict and of being able to create a better solution.

The Compromise

You already know that by accepting a compromise, both parties agree to a solution that only partially satisfies both of them. It is one of the fastest ways to solve a conflict, and may be best when there is little time to resolve the conflict. It may also be adopted as a temporary solution, while still searching for a way to satisfy both parties, because it can lower stress levels, allowing you and your opponent to concentrate better on finding a middle ground.

The Withdrawing Technique

When using this method, it means that you will let go of any of your concerns and opinions, avoiding the conflict by all means. It may be a solution when you are facing aggression, as it will give you time to focus on more important aspects or will allow the creation of a better mind-set to express your point of view.

The Accommodation Method

Also known as smoothing, it means to put another’s concerns in front of your concerns. It may help to find what are the best interests, leaving aside the ones that are not that important. Also, it gives you the opportunity to look at the issue using different perspectives. Although, be cautious, as there is the risk of being abused or for the opponent to take advantage of you. There is a certain balance and skill from your side, to avoid these things from happening.

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What is Sigil Magick?

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You may think that this name is just a coincidence, but it’s actually not, and it does represent a form of magic. Sigil comes from the Latin word “sigillum”, which means seal. In Hebrew, for instance, “segula” comes with the meaning of action or talisman. Now you may wonder whose seal it is. Or how can one use such a seal? It is actually a symbolic representation of the intentions of a magician or of one that practices magick. It is not a recent discovery since sigil magic was used centuries ago as well. Many books found, which belong to medieval times, contain these magical symbols; so it looks like people did seek the help of these seals throughout history.

In the occult manifestations of the medieval times, the sigil was represented by symbols of angels or demons, which could be summoned by the magician. Also, think about the Germanic runes, or symbols encrypted on stones, dating back to the Neolithic era. So this may look like an ancient form of magic, meant to put to use the Universe’s forces. A controversial list, containing such sigils, is “The Lesser Key of Solomon”, which is said to contain 72 sigils, belonging to princes of Hell. Considered to be the symbol that represented the real name of the entities, it is said that the magician who had the list could have controlled and summoned the beings.

Today, this method is used in the so-called Chaos Magick, and it is said to work this way: A magician thinks about an intention and writes down that statement of intent. Next, he cuts all the vowels out. After cutting the vowels out, he must check to see if the remaining letter have duplicates. If there are duplicates, he must cut down all the duplicates so that every letter has a single representative. Then, with the remaining letter, he can craft his own sigil. It can be of any shape or design, chosen by the magician. To actually work, the sigil must be charged with his energy. Either he turns to a meditative state, uses his sexual energy or blood, through an energetic outburst or just by declaring his intention. The sigil is then used as a discreet symbol written on a piece of paper, in a crystal, on a piece of wood, whatever works for the person using this type of magic.

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These sigils are summoned or utilised by the will of the one that holds it, mostly in the attempt to obtain something or to create a favourable environment. A sigil is something private and will be kept well hidden, so you will never come across a magician willing to share his sigil. The point is that this old form of magic survived the passing of time and ended up being used in the modern times as well. Is it actually working? Or have people just been trying to figure it out for centuries now?

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7 Ways To Connect With The Love And Beauty In The World

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Stop and take a look around. We live a stressful life that unrolls so fast, in a modern society that puts importance on speed and superficial things. We all have one life to live, and we might miss all the simple beauties found on this planet after we depart. So we need to slow the pace down, relax, stop our continuous chase after things that don’t matter and find happiness in the simple things. The world we live in is a fascinating place, but you must dedicate some time to notice the small miracles around you.

The world around us is an extraordinary system, but it evolves and changes at a very slow pace. It’s great to let your mind, body and soul get in touch with the most elementary aspects your surroundings. Here are 7 ways to get connected with this amazing place we call planet Earth:

1. Listen to the Birds

Whether you take a stroll in the park, or you enjoy an outing in the suburbs or a more natural environment, enjoy the beautiful chirping of the birds. You will be amazed how many sounds these feathery little creatures can create. Sounds that cannot break through the crazy noise of a busy city. Their pleasing sounds will sooth your inner being and will make you feel more alive.

2. Enjoy the Benefits of Water Flow

Being near a water course, whether it is small or big, a waterfall or a mountain spring, the sound of moving water is beautiful music for your soul. Probably the best water flows are the sparkling mountain springs. Just look at the crystal clear water as it plays under the sun rays. Or just closing your eyes and hearung the sounds as it passes over rocks and follows its way to a distant point, can put you in balance with the beauty of the world.

3. Watch the Plants

Each plant, regardless of its shape, is a beautiful creation of nature. They have been on this planet for a long time, before we even evolved into what we are today. These simple live forms managed to adapt to any environment condition and to take their existence in complete silence. Again, take the time and look at their bright green, vivid colours of their flowers and delicate scent. Even the smell of grass can make you feel free and careless. A day out in an untouched green wilderness will get you to see life with different eyes.

4. Contemplate the Trees

Trees are silent witnesses that carry with them the shadows for the past years. They live longer than us, so they carry an energetic charge than can be rather impressive. Feel the texture and smell of the bark, look at the intricate branches and fresh green of the leaves. Go up to the mountain and breathe the resin of the coniferous trees. Your blood pressure will soften; you will feel calm immediately and in touch with these lovely giants.

5. Look at the Stars

Take a journey outside of the city. Somewhere at night where there aren’t so many surrounding lights. A cottage up in the mountains can be the best retreat to look at stars, as you need complete darkness to see their beautiful flickering light. Seeing the multitude of stars, you will realise that there are so many galaxies out there, all formed by the same laws of physics. We are so small in comparison with the vast Universe, and we should enjoy them and connect with this great entity as much as we can.

6. Take a Journey through the Untamed Wilderness

To get in connection with the beauty of the world, you need to be surrounded by it. To refill your batteries and feel refreshed and complete, take a short vacation somewhere far from any trace of civilisation and live simple, just by enjoying the wonders of nature. Respect the environment and don’t try to harm its beauty with modern means of living; it would be a shame, not to feel a part of it, for at least a short while.

7. Connect with Creatures

Having a pet, if you can take up the responsibility, is a nice form of therapy and a way to connect to the pure and beautiful side of life. These unreasoning creatures have an amazing way to connect with us, so we should find a way to connect with them as well. If you cannot keep animals on your property, try setting up bird houses, or a squirrel feeding ground if you have any of them where you live. Having life and animals around your house is just another way to enjoy the beauty of nature’s creations and feel more connected with it.

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Laughter Therapy Techniques to Lighten Your Day

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It’s well known that laughter is one of the best natural antidotes to the effects of stress. So why do we not do it more often? It’s really just down to habits. And a lot of us in modern society are way too focussed on the serious side of life. It’s good to do simple exercises to help loosen the internal funny muscles because it helps us reduce stress quickly and easily. So give yourself 5 minutes to practice the following Rapid Humour Therapy Techniques:

1. Speaking Gibberish in the Mirror 

Stare at yourself in the mirror and begin talking gibberish to that person in front of you. “Blah de blah blah blaaaah!” Why not pull funny faces to? How long can you grin your biggest grin before cracking up laughing?

2. A Funny Gesture

When you find something hilarious what gesture would epitomise that feeling? Go ahead and discover what movements demonstrate that state of being. Is it rapid hand shaking while smiling a big grin? Or how about jumping up and down on your toes…

3. Art Gallery Picture Frame

Think about a situation that causes you stress. Picture it in your minds eye; SEE YOURSELF in the situation, and notice the other people and the surroundings.

Now imagine placing a gallery frame around that picture; is it a thick golden frame? Is it oval or rectangular or another more interesting shape. Play with this and notice how it changes your emotional response.

4. A Friends Laughter

Do you have one of those special friends that are really good at helping you laugh at your sorrows and woes in life? Think about their special laughter. Hear it nice and loud in your mind. And now think about one of the situations in your life that is stressing you out. Now hear your friends laughter nice and clearly. Repeat this process a few times; that should lighten your emotional response to the situation you choose.

5. Evoke The Angel of Clowning

Did you know that there is an Angel of Clowning? Yes, it’s true you know! Breathe in and out a few times and then imagine you are blowing up a big funny clown in front of you; breathe life into him so he becomes alive. Now looking at him, noticing his gestures ask him, “How can I have more fun?” and “How can I lighten up?”

Now just remember, in future, you can pull your Angel of Clowning out of your pocket anytime you need to lighten up.

The exercises above are simple and fun to do. If you practice them regularly it could surprise you how much you lighten up in your everyday life. Doing something to reduce the effects of stress and anxiety is essential these days for our overall health and well-being. So why not share these exercises with friends and double the fun!

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What Is Emotional Resilience And How Can You Develop It?

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Throughout your life, you have noticed people who seem to handle with ease, stressful or difficult situations, comparative with others. These conditions may appear extremely hard for you to handle, and you may consider them as a threat to your daily well-being. But some folks never give up, no matter how many knocks life gives them. It is a quality called emotional resilience, and it enables a person to deal with different crises without becoming demoralised or brought down by the events.

People, who are emotionally resilient, have a set of characteristics that helps them face any obstacle. They are more aware of the things that happen to them, and they know what feelings they experience and why. They are perseverant in any situation and believe that the strength of coordinating their destiny lies in their hands. They are always optimist and have a well developed sense of humour, always ready to laugh instead of letting worries overwhelm them. Although they are seen as strong people, they value the support of their family members and friends, and will always seek to be surrounded by them. No matter what type of experience they have, they will always learn from it and accept obstacles as a way to become stronger.

Here is what you need to know if you wish to become an emotional resilient person:

  • Never Give Up: No matter how hard the situation becomes, do not give up and continue developing your emotional resilience.
  • Change Your Attitude: You need to develop a positive attitude and take each challenge of living as a call to action, rather than to feel pity for yourself or to feel that you are a victim of life. If you concentrate on finding solutions for your problems, you will feel more confident and stop blaming the circumstances.
  • Be Aware Of The Things Around You: It’s very useful to know why you feel certain feelings, especially when you hit major difficulties. Knowing the cause can help you concentrate on coming up with a viable solution. Keeping a journal, for instance, can be very helpful for introspection and allowing you to remain focused on finding an answer to your challenges.
  • Stay Optimist And With Good Humour: It may be hard to laugh when life hits you but if you keep a light heart and always look at the “full glass,” you will be able to pass through any crisis more quickly. Being optimistic can help protect you against stress and fear.
  • Take Control Of Your Life: Don’t let yourself be carried away by events in your life, even if they are most unpleasant. You must be aware that the strength to change things is only in your hands; your attitude to life.

Even if you are an emotional person and you find some events in your life extremely challenging and stressful, you can train yourself to become emotionally resilient. The training needs to be constant if you want the best results and a life with minimum stress.

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How To Write A Personal Vision Statement

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Creating your own personal vision statement is a powerful process. It represents who you are, and it reflects your future life, in the way you want it to be. Writing down your goals, your wishes and desires, the way you see life for yourself, can be a powerful tool in achieving all of these. Motivational experts say that putting down into words the things that have the biggest value for you can actually bring you closer to them.

The personal vision statement is a declaration that will lead your life. So take your time in reflecting on the most important aspects in life for you in areas such as; work, friendships, relationships, spirituality and leisure. Also remember that your personal vision statement can change, according to the changes that occur during your lifetime. But you will be amazed how many will still remain steady.

Here are the things you should reflect about, before starting to create your vision statement:

  • Think about ten things you enjoy most. Choose things that make this world a more pleasant place for you.
  • Think about three things that you like doing every day of your life. Consider the ones that make your work more fulfilling.
  • Establish five, maybe six, values that are crucial for you.
  • Take every aspect of your life: career, family, spirituality, physical, social relationship, finances and so on. Set a goal for each aspect of your life.
  • If you would never have to work again in your life, what would you do with the remaining days of your life?
  • If your life is about to end, what is your biggest regret? Things you haven’t seen, or achieved, or done.
  • Reflect on your strengths and weaknesses; the way others see them and the way you perceive them in yourself.

After gaining a clear image of all these aspects, you can start composing your personal vision statement. Some specialists say 50 words or less, are enough. Some say that a better particularisation of your goals and vision is more helpful, and the statement should not cramp in word count. Maybe the best way is to make your statement long enough to include all of your dreams, plans, goals and visions about life. It will become the compass that will guide you every time you feel lost and don’t know what the right direction is.

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Always write the vision statement in first person so you identify with it fully. The vision statement should be about the goals you hope to achieve in the future, and you should write about them as if they are already starting to take place in the present moment.

Take the time to write your personal vision statement. It is a document that will have great power in your life and will provide you with excellent motivational support, if you write it well. Make a deep introspection about yourself and your deepest desires. Never write down what others say you should do. Follow your inner guidance and write down only the dreams that will make you happy. Be sincere and honest with yourself and the chance for them to come true are significantly high.

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How to Find Humour in Everything

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Life is full of ups and downs and everyday frustrations that can often rob you of your joy and happiness. However, you can find humour in everything if you try and in turn, you may find that you enjoy life more. But finding humour in life is not always easy. You can improve your ability to do it thought however if you consider a few simple tips:

Perspective is Needed

Getting perspective is one of the first steps to finding humour in everyday life. Often we can’t see the funny side of things because we lose our perspective. For example, if we slip on the ice while walking to our car we immediately think that the neighbours are laughing at us and we’re just always klutzy and embarrassing. However, if you get some perspective, you’d realise the neighbours probably didn’t even see the incident and many people slip on the ice anyway.

Putting things in proper perspective is needed to see humour in everyday occurrences. Rather than assuming things are worse than they are, it’s good to minimise them and the impact they have on the day.

Imagine Life as a Comedy

Once you’ve gained some perspective about everyday occurrences you can then take the next step to seeing humour in everything that happens. Since you no longer exaggerate or blow things out of proportion, you can now add humour. Think of life as a comedy movie or TV show and ask yourself how people in that show would respond. If someone were to slip on the ice in a TV show, a friend might joke about how their ice skating lessons are not working out well for them.

Laugh at Yourself First

Being able to laugh at yourself first is also a key to seeing humour in everyday events. Once you put yourself in perspective and see your own life as a comedy show or movie, you can then begin to laugh at little things. When you slip on the ice, tell yourself that it was really an interpretive dance.

Rapid Humour Therapy Technique: “Circus Music” 

1. Pick your favourite funny music

You could search Youtube for:

Circus Music, The Benny Hill Theme, Rhubarb & Custard Theme

2. Now as you hear that funny music nice and loud and clear in your mind, imagine watching yourself going through a situation you would like to lighten up.

It’s like watching a little movie of yourself over there on the wall or whatever. Go from the beginning, watch yourself moving about, talking, interacting etc. and keep that music playing loud and clear in your mind as you watch the movie play out to the end.

NOTE: You can watch the movie in fast forward mode to add even more humour!

Go through your day trying to find the jokes and the laughter about your own life and in turn, you may soon see that you can find the humour in everyday events more easily. This will help reduce stress and switch on more of your feel good endorphins.

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Life Coaching Questions to Ask Yourself

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Some people thrive on success. They’re usually the type of person who can’t possibly let themselves not succeed in some way. Whether they’re actively working on succeeding with their current life’s project or working to attain the next, they practically comprise some of the most successful people in the world. However, not everyone’s that driven. The majority of us need a little coaching—life coaching.

Behind Life Coaching

Life coaching is a type of encouraging discipline that depicts one party – a life coach – helping another person gain the drive to accomplish their goals in the form of guidance. In other words, they coach them through the ebb and flow of their lives.

Life coaching essentially helps people:

  • Recognise their skills and their dreams.
  • Refocus their goals in life.
  • Move past any challenges that may prevent them from attaining those goals.

Those goals may sound easy to attain, but it’s pretty difficult for most people to move past their reservations to accomplish them. And, there are plenty of reasons why that might be so:

  • Some people need guidance to learn how to move ahead in their career.
  • Some need help learning how to tap into their talents and strengths.
  • Some don’t know how to balance work and life.
  • Some don’t know how to approach a major life decision.
  • Some experience a lot of stress and/or aren’t as healthy as they should be.

Life coaches help people get through all of those obstacles and, eventually, learn how to resolve those issues on their own. However, not everyone has the time or resources to utilise a life coach. Well, what then?

It’s simple: there are plenty of life coaching questions to ask yourself.

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Life Coaching Questions To Ask Yourself: 5 Questions

Many people ask themselves questions, but those questions rarely address issues that could improve themselves. And, that’s one reason why many people seek help from a life coach in the first place.

But, if you can’t get a life coach, there’s nothing wrong with taking the plunge and asking yourself those questions. Here are some life coaching questions to ask yourself:

  • What kind of life do I really want?
  • How happy am I today – out of 1 to 10?
  • What does success mean to me?
  • What makes me truly happy?
  • What can I do within the next two weeks (or two months) to make me feel happier and with a sense of purpose?

Even though there’s a special contingent of people who thrive on success, it doesn’t mean we shouldn’t go without that, either. Think about that the next time you consider life coaching questions to ask yourself.

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Succeed in Achieving Your Goals with Willpower and Determination

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If you have ever wondered about the key to success, you are not alone. Anyone who has goals in life wants to succeed in achieving those goals, whether their goal is to get a great job, find a mate and start a family, or get better at their favourite hobby. However, not everyone knows the best strategy to take in order to achieve their goals. The fact is that if your willpower is strong enough and if you have enough determination, you will succeed in achieving your goals.

Don’t Be Discouraged by Rejection or Setbacks

Part of having a strong sense of willpower is not letting rejection or setbacks discourage you too much. Everyone is disappointed when they don’t get a job they applied for or when they lose a job they valued, when the object of their affection doesn’t return their feelings, or when they are struggling to master the skills of something they want to learn how to do. Not succeeding right away is just a natural part of the process, and it is not a sign that you should give up on pursuing your goals. Having willpower means that you have the motivation to try again and keep hoping for the best. If you have enough determination to keep trying until you succeed, you will find what you are seeking.

Resist Temptation and Keep Your Eye on the Goal

One thing that makes success difficult to achieve sometimes is that temptation may get in your way. Having willpower means resisting that temptation because you know that achieving your goal is more important. Temptation can take a lot of forms: it may be that delicious looking bowl of macaroni and cheese for someone who is on a diet. It may be that handsome stranger at a bar who you know would not be a good mate for you in the long run. It may be that great new TV show you just want to watch all day when you could be doing more productive things like looking for a job or practicing your hobby. Don’t give in to these kinds of temptations that may provide temporary gratification but will ultimately not be as satisfying as achieving your goals.

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Don’t Settle for Less

If you really want to be successful in achieving your goals, you need to keep trying until you achieve that success. Even when things get difficult, you need to stay motivated and remember exactly what you want. Don’t settle for anything less than what you truly want, because even if what you are settling for was easier to achieve, ultimately you will not be satisfied until you are doing what you really want to do. In the end, you will be glad you were able to rise above setbacks, rejection, and temptation, because with enough determination and willpower, you will achieve your goals.

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Art Therapy Ideas for Adults

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Art therapy is also called expressive therapy. This creative therapy improves every individual’s physical, emotional and mental well-being. It involves various art materials in which a person can explore and express his or her feelings and thoughts through the guidance of an art therapist. The art therapists provide a supportive, contained and safe environment for expressing one’s feelings by means of art. They also believe that art is not only intended to benefit the young, adults can also perform art therapy with beneficial results.

Art therapy enables people to express their creative talents and artistry. There is a theory that if a person is not able to express their feelings and their ideas through verbal communication, they do it in a form of art. Also, it is designed for the therapist to easily understand adults and it serves as a medium of analysis and discussion.

Art therapy ideas for adults are proven helpful for adults to express creatively what they feel and things they want to address. It is usually used in order to improve a person’s mental and emotional well-being and it’s also a way to relieve tension, stress and it can also be used for self-discovery. Art therapy can be classified into two types; it can be creative or expressive art therapy. Expressive art therapy makes use of different art materials like chalk, markers and paints. It combines the traditional psychotherapeutic techniques and theories. Creative art therapy is also designed to increase awareness for other and for self. This helps in promoting personal development, improve cognitive function and increases coping skills. Creative art therapy is based on human development, art education, personality theories and psychology.

Art therapy can be appropriate for individuals who have depression, anxiety, autism, emotional and behavioural problems, ADHD, learning difficulties and so on. They are facilitated by professional and qualified art therapists. They provide workshops for these individuals and they have the ability to understand these individuals.

The implementation of art therapy ideas for adults is a great help not only for the process of improving their hidden talents but a great help for them to overcome and express what they truly feel. It gives them the opportunity to improve their conscious and unconscious minds. They are able to express their insights and emotional state despite their ages. Art therapy improves creativity, self-awareness, personal development, self-reflection amongst other benefits.

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